Sibling rivalry is a common and natural phenomenon in many families, often characterized by competition, jealousy, and conflicts between siblings. While it can be challenging for parents to navigate, understanding the underlying causes and implementing effective strategies can help foster healthier relationships and promote harmony within the family unit.
What are the best ways to handle sibling rivalry?
✨Prioritize 1:1 Connection time with each child. This doesn’t have to be long. Think QUALITY over quantity. This could be 5 minutes a day of doing something that you’re kid wants to do.
✨Teach Healthy Conflict Resolution skills and model these skills so that kids feel confident to work things out themselves.
✨Try not to use Labels. “He is the wild child and she is the scholar.” Try not to compare.)
✨Teach Self-Regulation Skills (movement, identifying their feelings, etc.)
✨Teach Healthy Communication so kids have the skills to resolve things on their own. Don’t get involved in squabbles (unless it’s a safety issue). Teach kids to LISTEN to each other, allow each other to speak, and use respectful language.
✨Calm the Conflict. Be a role model. Regulate yourself first. Once you are calm, share your calm with your kids.
✨Encourage your kids to be a Team! Put them in the same boat. We want our kids to feel a sense of camaraderie. Everyone involved in the argument experiences the same outcome or consequence.
✨Be Switzerland! Don’t take sides. Remain neutral.
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